“You stumble through your days
Got your head hung low
Your sky’s a shade of grey
Like a zombie in a maze
You’re asleep inside
But you can shake awake
‘Cause you’re just a dead man walking
Thinking that’s your only option
But you can flip the switch and brighten up your darkest day
Sun is up and the colour’s blinding
Take the world and redefine it
Leave behind your narrow mind
You’ll never be the same
Come alive, come alive
Go and light your light
Let it burn so bright
To the sky
And it’s open wide
Songs by Benj Pasek & Justin Paul
These words, together with many other lyrics from “The Greatest Showman” by 20th Century Fox, seem to sum up for me how many people I meet live their lives.
More importantly, the chorus of “Come Alive!” is so resonant of the impact that the understanding I share with people has on their lives.
“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them. “ Henry David Thoreau
Lately, I’ve been working with several people who admit to a fear of being visible. An anxiety about being ‘seen’. Not showing up and shining in the world. Keeping their song, their gifts, their talents inside them. Hiding, for fear of being judged not good enough.
And yet it also seems clear from anecdotes and research that, at the end of their lives, it’s never the things people have done that they regret. What they regret are nearly always the things they didn’t dare to do.
Here’s a metaphor that may offer a different and helpful way to think about it.
This metaphor was shared by Anita Moorjani, who has written widely about her near-death experience in her book “Dying to be Me”.
This week’s blog was inspired by a good friend who recommended a service called “Freddie’s Flowers” to me.
I love fresh flowers, and usually buy some with each trip to the supermarket – for the home, and also to dress the room when I run workshops.
An entrepreneur called Freddie Garland delivers fresh flowers once a week to your home for £22 a week. The quality of the flowers is excellent – and he includes tips on arranging them, both in written form and via YouTube videos each week. It’s a great business idea, and you can find out more at www.freddiesflowers.com
It got me thinking about how we humans calculate the cost-benefit of things; how we choose to spend our hard-earned cash. What we prioritise.
So, I did some digging…
Britons spend an average of £2,210 a year in coffee shops. This figure rather shocked me! Sounds a lot doesn’t it?